b.Treat relationships as though they are a business partnership whereby the business is to provide happiness, care, cont
JEALOUSY SiF Episode #383
Learn how and why jelousy presents itself and how to deal with a jealous partner or yourself if you are bitten by the green-eyed monster.
DEFINE JEALOUSY: FROM URBAN DICTIONARY The feeling of being threatened by a rival in a romantic relationship or losing something of value to another person which happens to be yours already. 1. Introduction 2. Definition of Jealousy: Feeling of being threatened by a rival in a romantic relationship or losing something of value to another person which happens to be yours already. 3. Sources a. Thoughts on the book 4. What causes jealousy a. Low self-esteem b. An overwhelming need to control c. Possessiveness d. Unable to take responsibility for one’s own feelings, actions, status, or position 5. How to overcome jealousy a. Eliminate the concept of ownership b. Treat relationships as though they are a business partnership whereby the business is to provide happiness, care, contentment, support, and/or security c. You have no right to complain about how you feel or demand that anyone change their behavior because of your feelings d. Everyone who has relationships with you has the right to change the rules at any time. Accept that everyone in a relationship with you may, without warning or notification, completely change the rules and they even have the right to be deceptive e. Only you can make you happy and you have no recourse if you invest kreplits in a relationship that garners no return 6. How to identify feelings of ownership and possessiveness a. Exhibiting signs of frustration when demands/requests are not met b. Blaming others for the way one feels or behaves c. Selfishness - (see “Am I being selfish” flowchart) 7. How to navigate around jealousy discussion: a. Personality types
Sources Jealousy: Why it Happens and How to Overcome It. by Dr. Paul Hauck at Amazon.
AM I BEING SELFISH???
Take the test
Name or describe the thing you want to do or have.
Is it a favor?
Is it a thing?
Is the thing you wish to have something that you can afford without changing budgetary goals you’ve set for yourself or with someone else, and would you allow others connected to the same budget purchase the same, similar, or completely different items of roughly the same value?
Are you willing to pay back the person(s) you are asking the favor of with a similar favor of equal time and energy?
NO
YES
You are being selfish
You can do it without another worry or concern that your desire to do it is doing anything more than taking responsibility to make yourself happy
Is it an activity?
Are you willing to offer no objections and instead be encouraging when others in your life wish to partake in activities similar to this activity?
OF COURSE THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS If the thing you want hurts others and is purely evil, you may or may not be selfish, but you are too dumb to play. Instead of listening to this show or reading this PDF, you should perhaps be taking a personality inventory and informing your neighbors that they should keep their kids away from you.
