Apr 12, 2013 ... JESUS was the ultimate Resilient Warrior & Leader. • And HE ... Sing a New
Song ... SOURCE: Chapter 5, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees.
RESILIENCE “GOD Style” RESILIENT WARRIORS! Spirit Warrior Men’s Spring Conference April 2013 Bob Dees
[email protected] www.ResilienceTrilogy.com 4/5/2013
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SESSION 1
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THREAT CLEARS A MAN’S HEAD
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WE are all “Warriors”
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LIFE is a Contact Sport!
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SUFFERING “IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION…. Resulting From: SELF OTHERS SPIRITUAL FORCES INEXPLICABLE TRAJEDY
Greek “thlipsis” Latin
squeezing
“tribulum” threshing
This Tribulation results in Trauma, Pain, Suffering, and Opportunity.
BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER, I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.” 4/5/2013
JESUS -- John 16:33(NKJV) RFD LLC
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RESILIENCE “GOD Style” “We are often troubled, but not crushed; sometimes in doubt, but never in despair; there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend; And though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:8, 9 4/5/2013
Source: Spiritual Fitness Handbook RFD LLC
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RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE© LEARN & ADAPT
Before
During
After
Source: Resilient Warriors, www.ResilienceTrilogy.com 4/5/2013
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RESILIENCE SUMMARY • TRAUMA is a Reality… RESILIENCE is a Necessity • Invest now in yourself and others… • Before, During, After
• Not merely about human strength or grit • Faith-based Resilience leads to greater Readiness • Regarding Christian best practice… – JESUS was the ultimate Resilient Warrior & Leader • And HE grants that same Resilience to those who follow Him 4/5/2013
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SPIRIT WARRIOR GAME PLAN I. Building Resilience [BEFORE] – What is it? – Why do we need it? – How do we build it?
II. Weathering the Storm [DURING] – Life is a contact sport! We all get body slammed! – How to navigate trauma in self and others?
III. Bouncing Back [AFTER] – Without getting stuck in toxic emotions • Guilt, False Guilt, Anger, Bitterness…
– Able to Learn & Adapt for future life challenges • Becoming Better, Wiser, Stronger 4/5/2013
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LEARN & ADAPT Dr BEFORE Know Your Calling (Mission, Purpose) Know Your Enemy Know Your Friends Know Your Calling Guard Primary Relationships (Mission, Purpose) Know Your Equipment Choose Forgiveness Know Your Enemy & Gratitude (Armor of God) Know Your Friends Grieve Well Know Your Equipment Sing a New Song Deploy with the Right Mindset (Armor of God) Revalidate Your Calling Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact” Deploy with the Right Mindset (Discern/Chart the Future) Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact” Comfort Others (Get Ready!) (Get Ready!) 4/5/2013
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SOURCE: Chapter 5, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees
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“The Hope Diamond” John 3:16 Psalm 31:24
Romans 15:4,13
Psalm 38:15 Romans 5:2-5 Psalm 42:15 Psalm 71:5
“For God 1 Corinthians 3:12 so loved the world That He gave his one and only Son, Colossians 1:27 that whoever believes in Him Hebrews 6:18-20 shall not perish, but have 1 Timothy 4:10 eternal life.” He Loves We Believe & & (NIV) He Gave We Live
Courtesy Max Lucado, 3:16: The Numbers of Hope, page 8. 4/5/2013
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“Never Once…” By Matt Redman Kneeling on this battle ground Seeing just how much You’ve done Knowing every victory Was Your power in us Scars and struggles on the way But with joy our hearts can say Yes, our hearts can say Never once did we ever walk alone Never once did You leave us on our own You are faithful, God, You are faithful 4/5/2013
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SESSION 2
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The Greatest of Commandments The Greatest ofPersonal Commandments Comprehensive Fitness™ JESUS: “YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR GOD WITH » ALL YOUR HEART AND WITH » ALL YOUR SOUL AND WITH » ALL YOUR MIND AND WITH » ALL YOUR STRENGTH AND YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.” (Mark 12: 30, NASB)
(EMOTIONAL) (SPIRITUAL) (MENTAL) (PHYSICAL) (RELATIONAL)
Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ 4/5/2013
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Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ leading to RESILIENCE • PHYSICAL (“Body is Temple of Holy Spirit”) – Diet, Exercise, Hygiene, Sleep
• MENTAL(“Taking Every Thought Captive”) – Thought Patterns, Intellectual Curiosity, Acuity
• SPIRITUAL(“To be spiritually minded is life & peace”) – Connection with God, faith practices
• EMOTIONAL(“Slow to Get Angry”) – Regulation, Temperament
• RELATIONAL(“Let us LOVE one another”) – Connectivity, Mutual Support 4/5/2013
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MY Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ Application Exercise #2 PHYSICAL
SPIRITUAL
Diet?
Connection with God?
Exercise?
Faith practices?
Hygiene?
EMOTIONAL
Sleep?
Regulation?
MENTAL
Temperament?
Thought Patterns?
RELATIONAL
Intellectual Curiosity?
Connectivity?
Acuity?
Mutual Support?
Some Leading Questions: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
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How do I assess my status in each of these areas? To what degree am I prioritizing these fundamental values in my life? Do I hold myself accountable to these priorities? Have I enlisted others to help? How does success or excess in one area affect the others? What realistic changes/commitments make sense for me now? A. ____________________________ B. ____________________________ C. ____________________________ RFD LLC
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RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE© LEARN & ADAPT
Before
During
After
Source: Resilient Warriors, www.ResilienceTrilogy.com 4/5/2013
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What does a “STORM” look like?
“At intervals between a bomb falling it sounded like church: voices from nearby slit trenches all chanting the Lord’s prayer together- over and over again. Louder when the bombs hit closer.” Veteran Army Air Forces Bombardier and Olympic Runner Louie Zamperini as recorded in Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand, page 117 4/5/2013
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Weathering the Storm Call 911 • • • •
Start the IV
Pray to God Ask for Help from 911 Friends Ask the “experts” Graciously accept help from others
Keep Breathing • • • •
Count Your Way Spiritual Breathing Hit A Knee Record the Journey
• God’s WORD in every possible way
Draw From Your Well of Courage • Remember Past Faithfulness • FEAR + FAITH = COURAGE
Remember Your Calling
“Sharon knew that Faith, Family, and Friends would be the key to living through this nightmarish reality.” Resilient Warriors, page 129, referring to Gold Star Parents Sharon and Deacon Collins 4/5/2013
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From PAIN to SERVICE God’s Economy of Suffering PAIN
PRESENCE OF GOD In Your Presence is Fullness of JOY
The JOY of the LORD is my STRENGTH I can do all things through HIM who STRENGTHENS me Not to be served, but to SERVE… 4/5/2013
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RESILIENCE “GOD Style”
Consider JESUS Calling (John 10:10b) Enemies (Matt 12:14,14a) Friends (Mark 3:13,14) God’s Word (Matt 4:7) Replenishment (Matt 14:13a) Comfort to Others (Luke 23:43) Sing a New Song (2 Corin 5:17)
Even on the Cross!
“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:8, 9
Always carrying about in the body the dying of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. 2 Corinthians 4:10 4/5/2013
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“Never Once…” By Matt Redman Kneeling on this battle ground Seeing just how much You’ve done Knowing every victory Was Your power in us Scars and struggles on the way But with joy our hearts can say Yes, our hearts can say Never once did we ever walk alone Never once did You leave us on our own You are faithful, God, You are faithful 4/5/2013
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SESSION 3
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What About You? What About Me? “one person is devastated, while the other is determined one breaks, while the other bounces”
Are You a Tennis Ball or an Egg? “Will we view the inevitable traumas of life through a lens of resilience and potential growth through adversity, or will be inclined to play the role of a helpless and hopeless victim?” (Resilient Warriors, page 199)
The fundamentals of the Resilience Life Cycle© and Comprehensive Personal Fitness™ can make the difference… for now, and into eternity. 4/5/2013
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LEARN & ADAPT AFTER
Guard Primary Relationships Choose Forgiveness & Gratitude Grieve Well Call 911 Guard Primary Relationships
Know Your Calling (Mission, Purpose) (Ask for help) Choose Forgiveness Know Your Enemy Start the IV & Gratitude Know Your Friends (Nurture yourself) Grieve Well Sing a New Song Know Your Equipment Keep Breathing Sing a New Song Revalidate Your Calling Revalidate Your Calling (Armor of God) (Maintain routines) Deploy with the Right Mindset Your Well of Courage (Discern/Chart the Future)(Discern/Chart the Future) Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact” (Past strengths) Comfort Others Comfort Others (Get Ready!) Remember Your Calling 4/5/2013
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SOURCE: Chapters 7 & 8, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees
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Sing a New Song “being renewed in body, mind, soul, spirit, and relationships as we rise from the ashes of brokenness” (RW, pg 166)
• Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans that I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” (NIV)
• “Vital Optimism” • The Power of “New” • Singing in Prison??? Courtesy iClipArt.com
“as we obediently seek to sing a new song in our recovery from trauma, we will soon find that the Creator God starts refilling us” (RW, pg 167) 4/5/2013
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Revalidate Your Calling Discern and Chart the Future
• Personal Board of Directors • “Zero Based Budgeting” • “Fixed Life Costs”
Courtesy GaryLEllis.org
(Values Map)
– Comprehensive Personal Fitness™
• “Variable Life Costs”
(Mission Map)
• “Practice Your Declinations” RW Advanced Study Guide (Pg 81+) lays out this process 4/5/2013
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Comfort Others • “Walking with a Limp” • Stewardship of Pain
• Healthy Dependence
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“…God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction.” (2 Corinthians 1:3,4)
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Trauma in My Life Application Exercise #2 Analyze one of your life traumas in terms of the Resilience Life Cycle©
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1. My “Body Slam”: ___________________________________ 2. My Feelings: ______________________________________ 3. My Reactions: _____________________________________
BEFORE 1.
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DURING
Was I Prepared for 1. this life experience? _______________ How could I “Get Ready” for this? A. __________ 2. B. __________ C. __________ Did I have “Actions on Contact” prepared in advance? _______ 4/5/2013
How did I “Weather the Storm?” A. __________ B. __________ C. __________ What/Who were my “life preservers?” A. __________ B. __________ C. __________
AFTER 1. 2. 3.
4. 5.
LEARN & ADAPT
Did it get worse? 1. Did I grieve the loss? (D,A,B,D, Acceptance) Did I get stuck? A. Guilt? 2. B. Anger? C. Bitterness? Am I still stuck? How do I get unstuck? 3. A. New Song? B. Forgiveness? C. Renewed Purpose?
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What did I LEARN? A. Before?_________ B. During?_________ C. After?__________ Did I GROW? How? A. __________ B. __________ C. __________ Did I ADAPT in order to “Be Ready” for future life traumas? ____________________
REFERENCE: Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide, pages 13,14, 36-39
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Make It Count! “One boot in front of the other” “I searched for a man among “One Boot in them who would rebuild the front of the wall and stand in the gap Other…” before Me for the land…” Ezekiel 22:30 HOLLAND September 1944 Operation Market Garden 4/5/2013 RFD LLC
“Just Doing My Job, Sir!”
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“Never Once…” By Matt Redman Kneeling on this battle ground Seeing just how much You’ve done Knowing every victory Was Your power in us Scars and struggles on the way But with joy our hearts can say Yes, our hearts can say Never once did we ever walk alone Never once did You leave us on our own You are faithful, God, You are faithful 4/5/2013
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RESILIENCE “GOD Style” RESILIENT WARRIORS! Spirit Warrior Men’s Spring Conference April 2013 Bob Dees
[email protected] www.ResilienceTrilogy.com 4/5/2013
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